Well Luv-Luv had an ultrasound recently, our 4th child will be a girl, which 2 of her 3 brothers to be are excited about (the youngest does not know what to make of the news, still a little too young to really comprehend it). And Sweetie's mom found out that I am still with Luv-Luv through a Facebook post about the baby, we knew she would find out eventually, and we had not been lying to her, just not correcting her mistaken assumptions. We will see how that one shakes out.
Bit of a war going on between Luv-Luv and Sweetie, Sweetie is big on headbands for baby girls, Luv-Luv feels they are a direct precursor to Anne Geddes style photos.
In about 18 months we may get to see how TOM's daughter fits in with my horde, her mother (TOM's first wife) knows about the whole situation with him and Luv-Luv, and she is perfectly fine with it and her daughter staying wherever he is at.
5 new fruit trees going in this weekend, Apricot, Plum and 3 Pomegranates, we are still planning to add a couple of Cherry trees in a few years, and I want to try Papaya, so in 5-6 years we will have fresh fruit year round (once Papaya starts fruiting it produces year round until it dies, so we will at least have that at any time of year). At that point we will definitely need some sort of food dehydrator, probably solar.
Anyone want to drop me a note and suggest other fruit I might want to look into? I am thinking about trying to grow some form of Southern Highbush Blueberries, and if I ever get the aquaponics bay going, Strawberries are high on the list.
Thursday, January 17, 2013
Friday, January 4, 2013
Life can be amazing
OK, I have been horrible about posting to this blog, here is a draft I started at the end of August:
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So, My Sweetie and I have been talking serious things, my dear Luv-Luv has been very supportive of how this second relationship is going, just as I have been very supportive of how hers is shaping up with TOM (The Other Man, as I jokingly call him). TOM is a pretty good guy, I would have no problem with him moving near by and luv-Luv spending a bunch of time with him on a regular basis, and I definitely do not have a problem with the thought of the two of them having sex, after all her trip to finally meet him went swimmingly, and she was practically glowing from the consummation of their physical relationship.
Now I am starting to look into the legal aspect of bringing Sweetie into my family with as close to Luv-Luv's legal rights as my wife and biological parent of my current children as possibly. I am looking into what local lawyers would be worth consulting over a probably complicated legal issue, it may even end up involving incorporating as a trust or something similar.
I also need to talk to some bank people to see if there is anything that can be done to improve the terms of Sweetie's mortgage, she is in that horrible position of being upside down in her loan, and up to date on the payments. Her debt ratio does not allow her to qualify for a traditional re-finance, and since she is not behind on the loan, she does not qualify for HARP. If only I had enough money I would buy up the house behind us and tell her to either rent her place out, or just walk away/short sell it and move into a family compound.
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Further updates:
TOM will be out visiting on his spring break, and the current plan is for him to move in with us next Fall after he has graduated. Apparently his ex-wife is fully aware of the situation and has no problems with his daughter coming out to spend the summers with him since he won't be able to see her during most the year due to distance. I am looking forward to having him as part of the family, as I wrote above in August he is a pretty good guy. I am planning to spend the nights he is out here on spring break at Sweetie's place, and bringing the children with me at least some of the nights to give the two of them some privacy.
I really need to find a good poly friendly lawyer around here, I did a little looking in September, but did not get any real leads, I'll check with a friend of ours who is in law school to see what names she can find.
The Fig tree in our front yard is still producing, but the last of the figs should be ripe in the next week or so, the oranges on our tree (both of them) should be ready in the next few weeks, first crop since we planted it in January 2011, it only had one orange on it last year and that got knocked off in a storm. The other trees and vines are doing great also, as are the chickens, although I found out I have to do some work on the run as a hawk has been sighted in our neighborhood.
Sweetie has been helping me get the garage into shape, which will then let me get some other storage areas cleared out and get started making one into a new bedroom for when TOM moves out here, if he stays that will be his room, if not my oldest child will get it. I got Sweetie's storage room mudded, so that is ready to paint, after that I need to make her some planters for her patio and get a couple of blueberry plants going for her.
The children can't wait for me to finish with the garage, I promised them I would set up a BB gun range as soon as the garage was clean and organized.
OK, let's see if I can get on at least a weekly update schedule.
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So, My Sweetie and I have been talking serious things, my dear Luv-Luv has been very supportive of how this second relationship is going, just as I have been very supportive of how hers is shaping up with TOM (The Other Man, as I jokingly call him). TOM is a pretty good guy, I would have no problem with him moving near by and luv-Luv spending a bunch of time with him on a regular basis, and I definitely do not have a problem with the thought of the two of them having sex, after all her trip to finally meet him went swimmingly, and she was practically glowing from the consummation of their physical relationship.
Now I am starting to look into the legal aspect of bringing Sweetie into my family with as close to Luv-Luv's legal rights as my wife and biological parent of my current children as possibly. I am looking into what local lawyers would be worth consulting over a probably complicated legal issue, it may even end up involving incorporating as a trust or something similar.
I also need to talk to some bank people to see if there is anything that can be done to improve the terms of Sweetie's mortgage, she is in that horrible position of being upside down in her loan, and up to date on the payments. Her debt ratio does not allow her to qualify for a traditional re-finance, and since she is not behind on the loan, she does not qualify for HARP. If only I had enough money I would buy up the house behind us and tell her to either rent her place out, or just walk away/short sell it and move into a family compound.
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Further updates:
TOM will be out visiting on his spring break, and the current plan is for him to move in with us next Fall after he has graduated. Apparently his ex-wife is fully aware of the situation and has no problems with his daughter coming out to spend the summers with him since he won't be able to see her during most the year due to distance. I am looking forward to having him as part of the family, as I wrote above in August he is a pretty good guy. I am planning to spend the nights he is out here on spring break at Sweetie's place, and bringing the children with me at least some of the nights to give the two of them some privacy.
I really need to find a good poly friendly lawyer around here, I did a little looking in September, but did not get any real leads, I'll check with a friend of ours who is in law school to see what names she can find.
The Fig tree in our front yard is still producing, but the last of the figs should be ripe in the next week or so, the oranges on our tree (both of them) should be ready in the next few weeks, first crop since we planted it in January 2011, it only had one orange on it last year and that got knocked off in a storm. The other trees and vines are doing great also, as are the chickens, although I found out I have to do some work on the run as a hawk has been sighted in our neighborhood.
Sweetie has been helping me get the garage into shape, which will then let me get some other storage areas cleared out and get started making one into a new bedroom for when TOM moves out here, if he stays that will be his room, if not my oldest child will get it. I got Sweetie's storage room mudded, so that is ready to paint, after that I need to make her some planters for her patio and get a couple of blueberry plants going for her.
The children can't wait for me to finish with the garage, I promised them I would set up a BB gun range as soon as the garage was clean and organized.
OK, let's see if I can get on at least a weekly update schedule.
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